Sometimes, on the way to a dream you get stuck. You hit that wall where you’ve been pouring everything you’ve got into this thing, and you still have nothing to show for it, and you feel so lost. Your sense of purpose is gone, you have no idea what to do next, and you can barely motivate yourself to get out of bed and get through the day. It feels like your dream is never going to happen and you feel like giving up.
And then it gets worse. You doubt yourself completely. You feel discouraged and despondent. And you wonder why you ever thought you could make it in the first place. You feel stupid for thinking you had what it takes to turn this dream of yours into something real. All this effort you’ve been expending, pouring your heart and soul into it… and nothing seems to be happening. That dream of yours seems just as distant as it did when you first started.
And so you start to wonder what the point is. “Why bother?” you ask yourself. Why keep putting yourself through this? You’re exhausted and you’re burnt out and you think that maybe all those people who told you this was a stupid idea might have been right after all. And all you want to do is cry because you don’t know what else to do. Because even though you’re thinking about giving up right now, on some level you know you still want that dream. And the thought of giving up on it for good hurts more than you’re willing to admit.
But you don’t know what to do. What you’re doing isn’t working. If it was, wouldn’t there be some indication by now that things were working? Wouldn’t there be some progress to show for it? Shouldn’t something be happening?
But what if something is happening, but it’s behind the scenes where you just can’t see it yet? What if you’re right on the edge of something huge? What if that breakthrough you’ve been seeking is right over the next hill or around the next obstacle? What if success is closer than you can possibly imagine?
Sometimes dreams take time. And sometimes, on that road to get there, when you’re feeling lost and alone, it can seem like they’re never going to happen for you. But the way to guarantee that they won’t is to give up on them. When you feel like giving up, remember that a lot can happen between now and never. And if you can’t stop thinking about that dream, then don’t stop working for it.
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Really needed this today, because I was having these very thoughts last night. It was my inner being that brought me here, but I was questioning this whole entire thing. WTF?
I love that picture you used! It explains this so, so well. Maybe we should focus on the muscle power and energy needed instead of questioning, especially when the universe and our inner being are pointing the way, and just keep going?
Oh, yeah, I forgot to ask this question before and just thought of it. LOA says that we should do what we love, what interests us and what excites us, without expectation of the result. I have noticed that when I expect something, I do not get it, but when I do not, I get it out of the blue. How and why is that? Is the energy of expectation not in sync with that of source energy? Must our beliefs be such that we know that source will take care of us no matter what, and we should not “stoop” to the lower vibe? I am just speculating here, but I do not really know why we must not have expectations.
so, how should we go about life? Just following our interests and excitements and not expecting anything from them and believing it will all pan out one way or another?
In those cases there is definitely a resistance issue at play. One of the chapters in my next book deals with the concept of “becoming certain” about things — and when you tell me that when you expect something you never get it, but that when you don’t expect it you get it out of the blue, that is a HUGE indicator to me that resistance issues are at play. When you stop expecting it, you’ve reached that point of almost giving up or not caring about it anymore, which often has the unanticipated result of evaporating any of the resistance you had around the thing you were trying to manifest. When you “expect” it but don’t get it, you’re not really expecting it… something in you is resisting the idea of getting it, otherwise it would be, or there would be some indication that things were moving.
Do what you love, love what you do. Take consistent action towards building what it is you want in life. And believe that it will happen for you. If letting go of expectation works for you, then work with that — sometimes we put too much pressure on those dreams and tie so much other stuff onto their manifestation that it messes us up. For example, we think that “when I get my law degree, I’ll be happy”. No. That’s not the way it works. If becoming a lawyer is important to you, then by all means, become a lawyer. But don’t tie your happiness to it — don’t delay your happiness for some point in the future. Be happy now. Today. Just because. And enjoy the process of becoming a lawyer (or a dancer or an engineer), and all that that journey involves.
Yeah… I just had a week like that recently, too. It happens to all of us at various points along the way.
I do love that picture. Sometimes you just can’t tell how close you really are. Just focus on pitching those balls out there — keep taking action towards what you want. 🙂
It is funny. The more the poop hits the fan, the more I actually real and like “whatever”. Maybe this is the best approach, no? Worrying about things is tiring.
You made me think of something I saw on Pinterest that made me laugh… sometimes you just have say “f*ck it” and go with the flow. 😉